With the recent release of the movie Escape from Germany, there has been a renewed interest in pre and post World War II. This movie portrays the life of The Church of Latter Day Saint missionaries right before the outbreak of war and the missionaries attempts to escape Germany.
Likewise, in my book Trauterose: Growing Up in Postwar Munich, I share some of my experiences growing up just right after the end of World War II. My memoir explores some of the lessons we can learn from the war, such as how humans can be transformed by tragedy and benefit from post-traumatic growth, as well as how different human beings can be connected to each other through different shared stories and through storytelling.
The Handshake-The Importance of Shared Stories
In my memoir, I share the story of my birth mother who was pregnant with me and met two women on a train with one woman seeking a child:
"My mother was working as a waitress for the Cafe Luitpold. [...] She was young and glamorous, her life in front of her, seemingly full of possibilities.
How then did I fit into her picture? I didn't. I was in the way. A brief encounter among women in a city tram one night came to the rescue" (19).
These women were listening to each other's stories and needs and then my birth mother offered one of the women an opportunity to adopt me since the woman who would adopt me wanted a child. What this event shows us is that during and after tragedies, it's important to share stories. By sharing their stories and listening to these women speak, my birth mother was able to find a loving home for me.
With a simple handshake, the women on the train and my birth mother were able to intertwine their stories and fulfill each other's needs simply by listening and sharing their journeys.
Posttraumatic Growth: What We Can Learn From Trauma
According to the American Psychological Association, posttraumatic growth is the "positive change" individuals can experience after trauma and tragedy, such as "a new appreciation for life, a newfound sense of personal strength and a new focus on helping others." In my memoir, I share how the experiences different individuals, especially myself, had from life after World War II led to new and positive insights.
In my memoir, post-traumatic growth is seen in aspects such as:
- Gratitude for being alive and to the different individuals who we meet on our journeys in life.
- An appreciation for basic necessities such as food and clean water;
- The ability to have a sense of belonging after rampant nationalism and facism had destroyed different communities in Germany and Europe.
As I mention in my memoir in a quote by Alfred Lord Tennsyon, "I am a part of all that I have met." Part of what we meet in this life is not just other people, but we also face trauma that can sometimes change us for the better. That is because trauma doesn't just leave a negative imprint; it can also have positive effects.
Trauterose: A Story of Resilience After World War II
Trauterose is a story of resilience after experiencing World War II. It is a story of finding out what lessons we can learn from the war, as well as the people and places we meet and experience as part of our journeys. My memoir is about finding what makes us resilient and powerful when trauma and tragedy can sometimes leave us feeling powerless.